Sunday, January 31, 2010

WEDDING: Officiant at Smogshoppe in Culver City, CA

Congratulations, Vivian and Jon!  Married on 23 Jan. 2010.

A former auto repair shop's structure, complete with its three garage doors, was the setting for this fantastic wedding in one the most unique spaces i have had the privilege to officiate at.  Touted as "L.A.'s greenest urban oasis", SMOGSHOPPE has a beautiful vertical garden, too.

The couple's wedding included a wine ceremony, as a symbol of their two lives combining or blending into one.  Each took an individual glass of red or white wine and poured all of it into  a third wine glass. Jon then poured the combined wine back into the 2 original glasses.  They both drank from their glass as they made a toast to themselves.

I had the great pleasure of working with Tony of REDSHOE LA again!  RedShoe, in my opinion as a music snob, is possibly the best d.j. company a couple could ask for at their ceremony, reception and more.  The entire event was in the very capable hands of Jeff from Smogshoppe, and handled through Kara of Marvimon, Smogshoppe's sister venue..  Photography by KYLE JOHNSON and his crew.

Wednesday, January 27, 2010

NEWS: Civil Marriage Religious Freedom Act... and Prop. 8

i recently received this email (excerpted) from EQUALITY CALIFORNIA:

As we’ve seen in the federal challenge to Prop. 8, our opponents have deliberately misled Californians on the distinction between civil and religious marriage, claiming that that clergy who refuse to perform marriages for same-sex couples would be punished and places of worship would lose their tax-exempt status. Thousands of EQCA volunteers who go door to door talking to people about marriage have reported that many Californians do not know that there is a difference between civil and religious marriage.

To alleviate confusion and to ensure our Constitution’s promise of religious freedom, Senator Mark Leno (D – San Francisco) introduced a bill today, sponsored by Equality California and co-sponsored by the California Council of Churches IMPACT, that protects clergy from being forced to perform any civil marriage that is contrary to the tenets of his or her faith and protects faith institutions’ tax-exempt status.

Regardless of party or ideology, every California legislator should support religious freedom. Email your representative and ask them to become a co-author of the Civil Marriage Religious Freedom Act.

When this bill is enacted, it will provide incontrovertible evidence that civil marriage for same-sex couples will not impact clergy or the freedom of religion.Email your representatives right now and ask them to become a co-author. If you’re registered with EQCA’s Action Center, you can reply to this email and a message will be sent automatically, or can log on to add a personal message.

Take action now and ask your representative to support religious freedom in marriage!

As you know, i am a strong advocate of equal rights for everyone, as i am sure you are.  Please take the time to show your support!  Thank you.

Sunday, January 24, 2010

NEWS: The ONLY Officiant in Ceremony Magazine L.A. and O.C.!!

A NON-DENOMINATIONAL CEREMONY is excited to announce its inclusion in Ceremony Magazine for  2010! Ceremony is known for its discerning clientele and photography amongst other things...but until recently, they were missing the ceremony!
Now, they have an officiant, and only one:  see A NON-DENOMINATIONAL CEREMONY's web ad under 'Consultants and Planning Services' for Officiant Venus Kitagawa-Stojsic at Ceremony Magazine in Los Angeles and in Orange County!

Tuesday, January 19, 2010

NEWS: The New Economics of Marriage

The 'sugar mama' is a more common occurrence these days, according to a report on NPR.

In a new study released by the PEW RESEARCH CENTER*, men seem to be the ones reaping the rewards of being married in the 21st century.

Compared to the 1970's, when women would often marry women to 'get ahead in the world', today many more women are now working, and in a greater variety of jobs, and sometimes even are employed while men are not. In fact, women are more likely to have a higher income than their male counterparts these days, and they are more likely to be higher educated.

i first learned about this study this morning on the radio.

"Americans are considerably better educated than they were four decades ago, which has enabled many adults to upgrade the educational credentials of their spouses" and consequently improve their financial situation. The study also shows how fewer people in general, aged 30 to 44 years old, are married these days. From 1970 to 2007, of those married, the median adjusted household incomes (defined as the sum of financial contributions of all members of the household" rose more than those of the unmarried.

For a look at the complete report, please see the Pew Research Centre's website for a pdf of the entire study.

*PLEASE NOTE: i am acutely aware of the discriminatory nature of the data, as it refers to strictly 'man as husband and woman as wife'-type heterosexual marriages. This in NO way reflects my beliefs as to what marriage is or should be.

Thursday, January 14, 2010

NEWS: A Non-Denominational Ceremony is Best of 2009!

OneWed Announces "Best of 2009" Awards Recipients and
Honors A Non-Denominational Ceremony

Top Wedding Planning Website Awards Leading Wedding Professionals with Annual Distinction

Chicago, IL (January 13, 2010) --, the ultimate online resource for wedding planning and home of, today announced the recipients of their "Best of 2009" awards.   The program celebrates the best wedding planning and service professionals in the wedding business, and OneWed is pleased to honor A NON-DENOMINATIONAL CEREMONY with this distinction.

The wedding professionals selected for this prestigious acknowledgement are an elite group of vendors who have received the most positive reviews based upon OneWed's 5-Star rating system. Each year, the coveted award is only given to the most highly-rated OneWed wedding vendors as voted by couples themselves.  "We are thrilled to award A NON-DENOMINATIONAL CEREMONY with this prestigious annual honor," says Jennifer Napier, VP of Marketing.  "At OneWed, we believe in sharing the love, and we're so excited to celebrate the wedding specialists who work every day to make couple's wedding days as memorable as possible."

The previous excerpt was taken from a press release.  For more information, or for a free, no-obligation consultation about your wedding ceremony, please see A NON-DENOMINATIONAL CEREMONY on the web!

Tuesday, January 5, 2010

INFO: How Do You Find a Couple's Webpage on The Knot?

Are you searching for an engaged couple's website on The Knot . com? Have you had a difficult time looking for a couple's personal wedding web page?

Many couples set up their wedding page on The Knot . com, but searching for a couple's page is not easy to is especially not-so-obvious for internet novices, but even for a geek (like myself). So here's how you do it:

1. Go to the Community main page:

2. Scroll DOWN on this community page. The "Wedding Web Page Search" is about halfway down.

3. Enter the name of the groom OR bride. If you have it, also enter the couple's home state and wedding date.

4. Click GO (or enter).

3. You will be shown a list of results. Find the couple you are looking for and click on the link.

There are lots of FREE wedding website services all over the internet. They are just a Google search away, but here are a few popular ones: Momentville,, and

Alternately, you can simply set up a blog on Posterous, Blogger, Tumblr or LiveJournal for free, and away you go.